A year ago my first love broke my heart. A year on I wouldn’t say I am yet completely healed. Some days are better than others and some days are worse. But I am learning that the process of fixing a broken heart takes time and requires a lot of understanding. Its a unpredictable process.
There will be days when you think things are looking bright and then BOOM there is another blow! I am still figuring things out but I think the key is taking each day as it comes and doing whatever you need to without feeling guilty about it. Eat the chocolate. Get drunk. Wallow in self pity. Each of us has our own way of dealing with things.
I believe even those of us who’ve had our hearts broken do have the capacity to love again. But we’ve got to be open to the possibility of fully loving someone again. I think if one is halfhearted about it all, you’ll attract just that – a semi-satisfactory relationship. That’s what I am learning. Sure, I’ve gone through the motions of setting up dates, sitting through the boring ones and maybe even having some fun on the better ones but I haven’t yet attracted the right person. I’ve certainly met people that are attractive, clever and fun but none of them are quite the right fit. And although this may sound cliched, you know what? It’s me NOT them.
The process of fixing a broken heart starts with some introspection. Focusing on oneself and finding ways in which you can control your own happiness rather than looking for it elsewhere. Everyone has to follow their own path and take solace in different things that make it easier to get through the day. Healing is never a linear process either. Just as you think things are getting better feelings/triggers will resurface and smack you in the face as a reminder that you are not quite there yet. I think the trick is to be patient with yourself. Remember you are human and there is no textbook way of handling emotions – we are all different.
Just keep swimming as best you can. Don’t wait for someone/thing else to come along and fix you, you might be waiting an eternity. It’s best to start laying the foundations for your recovery and then if/when Prince Charming comes along you’ll be in a better position to welcome him into your world.
Thoughts please. What are your tips for fixing a broken heart?
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